I’ve gotten so many questions on balancing work and my family, to blogging to being a working mom and having a family, and the finding time to blog. So, I wanted to do a little Q&A with some of my most common Q’s from you guys!
Q. How do you juggle your responsibilities at work and being a mom?
A. Honestly, it’s a weekly struggle! I try to make it a point to work during work hours and be at home and present with my family once I leave. I have some days when it all comes together and somehow feels so easy but then, of course, there are times when all my deadlines seem to hit at once and there are never enough hours in the day. There are weeks when I feel like, no matter what, something’s gotta give and I am falling short somewhere (or everywhere!) whether it’s missing out on moments with the kids, falling behind on things for work, missing deadlines for the blog, or not getting enough one-on-one time with Phil.
I seem to have one of those days once a week. But, I try and focus on the fact that these moments ebb and flow and I try and do just that – go with it.
Q. What’s your work day like?
A. I work standard business hours for my job, and use the early morning or late nights for my blog work. I’m up by 4:30 or 5:00 am so I can get as much as possible done before the house wakes up. My day starts with a workout of various sorts followed by a mad dash to get ready before Mitch gets up and Phil heads out for work around 6:30am. From there, I am in mom-mode. We eat breakfast, get ready and play a bit before packing up for daycare and work. Fast forward to 6pm and I am on the road home. Phil picks up Mitch, so they’re home and ready for dinner once I pull in. We spend the next two hours together as a family eating, playing, going outside and getting Mitch ready for bed. When Phil gives Mitch his bath, I head downstairs to do some work.
Once the Mitch is in bed it’s back at it again for a few minutes, either working on the blog, catching up on work or prepping for the day. Honestly, it is a lot and I feel like I’m always going, but I want to keep my life balanced as much as possible. On the weekends, I dedicate time to just Phil and work to get ahead on my blog (a new goal of mine!).
Q. How do you get focused when you work from home or trying to juggle it all?
Time blocking! It has seriously saved my life! I set times to get certain things done without distractions. That includes time with the kids where you don’t have your phone or do anything but just spend time with them. I do this with all of my work so I know exactly what to focus on when I have time.
Q. How do you stay focused?
Set goals, have priorities and set limits. Posting your goals keeps them on the back of your mind (or front!) and has always made me more ambitious to accomplish them. I love my planner and use it daily to map out my goals, priorities and put structure to my day. Usually, I dedicate 30 minutes to an hour on Sunday to write in my appointments, workouts and anything the family has going on in the coming week. From there, I write out what I need to do to make those things happen (ex. order a gift, prep dinners for the week, set out swim clothes for Mitch). Then I go in, day by day, and add in work deliverables by time so I can see where I have flexibility.
Q. How do you find time for “you time”?
I’m a huge believer in finding you time. When I first became a mom, I lost myself a lot when there was little to no time to prioritize myself and my needs. And that was ok. But now Mitch is older and more independent, I knew it was important to me to prioritize myself, my needs and passions again. I sat down and thought about what is most important to me, what makes me feel good and refreshed? Once I knew the answers (reading, blogging, working out, time with friends), I talked with Phil and asked how we could find time in our day. Staying connected to yourself is important to your sanity and happiness. And you definitely need to make time. I am up early in the morning to workout because I know how much I love the feeling and results, so I make it happen!
Q. How do you keep your house clean and not have kids take over everything and every room?
An organized house makes everyone feel better and is really necessary for me as someone who struggles with anxiety. For those days when I’m lucky to get a few minutes free here and there, it’s weirdly relaxing for me to organize my home and spend time planning. We decided to give Mitch big buckets for his toys. They are placed around the house so everything can be tossed in. And that is big in our house: When you are done playing, we pick up.
For the rest of the house, Phil and I split duties so no one feels overwhelmed, and work our way through them during the week. Finding ‘pockets’ of time
Q. What advice would you give those moms trying to balance it all?
Don’t be afraid to ask for help! At some point, you realize there is no such thing as a perfect mom. The word mom has so many different meanings now so don’t compare yourself to others. You don’t have to have the perfectly kept house or a home-cooked meal every night. Do your best, take small steps, and find peace in where you are.
Thank you all for your questions and support. I’d love to hear from you, answer one of the questions above!