I wanted to take a moment and discuss the great debate on weight. Specifically, pregnancy weight gain.
Surely we have all seen the tabloids splashed with images of celebs; they’re either too large (Kim K and Jessica Simpson come to mind) or are glorified for keeping their petite frame and seemingly have placed a basketball under their dress. While I certainly cannot condone gaining mass amounts of weight during pregnancy (doing so can have health risks for you and your baby), I do think we need to take a step back on the amount of pressure we put on ourselves (and others) while pregnant.
Through my entire pregnancy (35 weeks and counting) I have watched my body change, shift and yes, grow..and grow. People tell me that I am “all belly”, “look healthy” and am “so small” or “tiny”. As much as anyone appreciates a compliment, what I go on is how I feel. I have made an effort to continue my workouts, eat healthy and in an amount that is right for my body and growing baby, stay hydrated and also, rest.
In terms of weight gain, I have a basic idea thanks to my frequent visits to the doctor. But, I wonder if we need so focus much on the number – doing so brings back horrible memories of being a teen and hoping for a smaller number on the scale. As though that equaled self worth. Pregnancy fat shaming in the media has added unnecessary pressure to women during an extremely beautiful time in their life.
Personally, I think Savannah Guthrie said it best;
I know we shouldn’t pile on the pounds during pregnancy.
It isn’t healthy, and we don’t want to dig a weight gain hole so deep
we can’t Jazzercise our way out of it. But let’s keep it in perspective.
It is just a recommendation. If we look and feel healthy, can’t we give ourselves a break?
Prior to becoming pregnant, I honestly feared the changes my body would go through. After finding a healthy way of living, I was nervous to lose control. I was nervous that I wouldn’t love what I saw when I looked in the mirror. I was scared of watching the number grow on the scale, of clothes getting too small and wondered how I would appear to my husband. Being healthy has helped me find peace with my body and mind and I thought that I would lose it all if I was pregnant.
The funny thing is, as much as I do feel like my body is not only mine any more, I don’t feel like I have lost anything. In fact, being pregnant has shown me that the number on the scale is simply that, a number. What we put in our mouths COUNTS, now more than ever. Movement feels good and I love doing something every day not only for the endorphins, but because I really enjoy it. And that belly, well, that belly is one I would take any day. My healthy living has continued, and has been almost redefined.
Strangers stop me on the street and tell me I am glowing. Phil looks at me with adoring eyes and tells me that I am more beautiful now than ever. And you know what, I kind of think so too.
For me, I didn’t “lose my body” through my pregnancy. And I don’t think there should be this race to “get it back” so soon after giving birth. We need to do what is right for us and our bodies, pregnant or not.
The sooner we start listening to our bodies and less to the media, the better off we will all be.
That’s just me, thinking out loud. Until next week…
Do you agree with fat shaming in tabloids?
What makes you feel healthy and beautiful?
Mommas, did you feel pressure when you were preggo or after?